Everyone has problems.

Some people have too much and want less, while others seem to have too little, so they seem to be constantly creating new problems for themselves and others.

But what is a problem?
Here is the definition from the dictionary:

Problem: „Difficulty in understanding or accepting. (Merriam Webster Dictionary)*

But problems are important!

Without problems, we would not be able to develop and become more capable.

Let's look at an example of this.
When a university student passes the most difficult exam there is, they are usually very, very happy. If the same student successfully answers a few crossword questions, he is nowhere near as happy as in the case of the exam.

Why?
In both cases, he only answered questions! Well, he's not so happy because it wasn't difficult for him to answer those questions! But for the exam, he studied from morning to night, stayed up all night, giving up many good things.

In short, he overcame huge obstacles and mastered huge problems.

And with this performance, he grew in his own eyes and in the eyes of others! So he can be proud of himself!

In life we need obstacles and problems to overcome!

And only then can we be satisfied or happy. Think about this...

According to the above definition, any problem can be solved as follows:

1. we gain more understanding about it, or

2. we learn to accept it!

But how does this manifest itself in everyday life? Let's say we have a problem at the company. Let's just say sales have dropped drastically lately. Well, we can storm around the office berating every employee, or we can take out more loans from the bank. But would that really solve the problem? Just look at Definition 1.

How can we better understand the problem?

Exactly! The actual situation must be carefully examined! We have to scrutinize everything. When did revenues begin to decline? What did we do before? Did we change something there? etc.

If we look honestly and carefully, we will find out what caused the problem. The best seller was transferred to another department right before! Or they stopped sending out ads because the person in charge got sick... and so on. If we understand the problem, we can solve it very easily. And then it will disappear soon!

Eventually, you will have no problem understanding what automatically (according to the above definition) means the end of the problem! Once you have the actual root cause, the treatment will be simple.

But what about the second part of the definition?

"Difficulty accepting something".

Take for example a woman who has been abandoned by her husband. This is really causing him a problem and he feels bad about it. You have to reorganize your whole life. You need to find someone to pick up the children from school, look after them, cook for them, etc. Of course, you could dramatize the problem and blame everything on your husband (which, unfortunately, many people do), but if you look closely, you will realize that this does not solve the situation one bit, but rather makes it worse!

However, if the person is in a good state of mind, they simply look at the problem and say to themselves, "It's already happened and I can't change it. Maybe it's even better this way... Now I have to learn to live with it and make the best of it."

In other words: learn to accept it!

accept: "to endure without protest or reaction" (Merriam Webster Dictionary)*

And if you can actually (100%) accept the problem, it will go away!

Then you can start planning your new life and find yourself another (more suitable) man, and so on.

The above can be applied to any problem.

And even if you might not be able to solve the problem right away, you can at least have a direction and a goal in mind to get there. But now you know how to solve it.

The purpose of this work is to remind you that solving any problem requires only two things:

1. a better understanding of it and

2. the ability to accept the problem.

Try it and you will see it works.

Good luck for that!

Laszlo Lind (2019)